While becoming a parent has been filled with sheer joy and an overwhelming sense of adoration for another human being, it is certainly not a ‘walk in the park’. Tonight, we thought our readers might enjoy a change of pace in our blogging from the usual speech language pathology tips. So here are our top 5 quotes that you are welcome to use as your daily mantras:
1.“Let them eat cake”
This famous French quote reflected the ignorance of a “great princess” during one of the French famines who wondered why not just give the people ‘brioche’ if bread was scarce?
As a parent, this saying is a wonderful one to take literally as a form of self-preservation.
It is okay to say YES sometimes. Whether it be cake, screen time or breaks in routine, it may be what gets you through the day!
2.“Easy Come, Easy Go”
- A tiny terror pulling each item of clothing down one by one after you have carefully hung it out to dry? Easy come, easy go!
- Invested an hour into getting your child to sleep only to have them wake 10 minutes later? Easy come, easy go!
- Lovingly made yourself a cup of hot tea only to drink a couple of cold sips half an hour later? Easy come, easy go!
This saying works in so many facets of life and if you ever need a sing along for this quote, Diafrix’s “Easy come, easy go” is a great tune. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3vAVsoUM2Ws
3.“This too shall pass”
This famous Persian quote was said to be etched onto a ring for a powerful king to make him feel happy when he was sad.
In parenthood, it seems more apt to say “This poo shall pass” for the days of poo-filled nappies and sleepless nights are short in the scheme of things but can often feel like an eternity.
Oh yes, “This poo shall pass”, only to be replaced by a different challenge; another sh*t storm is brewing just around the corner!
4.“Perfect is the enemy of done!”
Parents are often faced with the daily predicament of ‘too much to do and not enough time to do it’? So here are a few ‘done is better than perfect’ habits of ours for your enjoyment:
- Using a baby wipe to pick up the pile of dust that has accumulated in the corner of the room constitutes as ‘sweeping’….right?
- Your toddler thinks that the words “eggie” and “dinner” are interchangeable….an egg is a perfectly sufficient meal for a toddler…right?
- The ‘broom bulldozer technique’ where you ‘sweep’ the endless number of tiny toys into a pile in the corner of the room constitutes as tidying up….right?
Seinfeld fans will appreciate this relaxation phrase that Frank Costanza, George’s father, used to control his anger and high blood pressure. When your child is having yet another meltdown, you may find this pearl of wisdom useful.
Here were my favourite reasons for toddler tantrums shared by Michelle Gadd, from the @stayathomemum blog https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/my-kids/parenting-style/51-hilarious-reasons-why-toddlers-chuck-tantrums/:
“I wouldn’t let her tip hot chocolate on me.” Anna
“Because she was not a unicorn.” Mel
“For turning the corner in the car.” Lauren
“When his ear wax was not allowed to go back into his ear.” Joanna
In any case, it seems that saying “Serenity Now” to yourself or “Hoochie Mama” (whatever works) is a lot better than the alternatives of screaming at your child or curling into the fetal position and rocking back and forth. Here’s the “Serenity Now Best of” for those of you want to see this relaxation technique in action https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ow_9MglZrhs
So parents, keep these 5 must-know mantras at the forefront of your mind when you are giving yourself a hard time about not being the ‘perfect parent’. Oh and when you find one, let us know!
To finish on a more positive note, here is a quote a good friend recently shared with me and it certainly is a good reminder!
Thanks for hearing our call.
Your Little Birdies,
Tania and Janice xx